Hey there people...
I was encouraged to join this blog after reading a similar blog of a fellow blogger in which she had described all the wedding planning phases and put up pictures... I really enjoyed reading her posts, I thought since I too am in the planning phase of my wedding, it would be great to include my up... my downs... my highs and my lows in regard to this part of my life... I live in Sri Lanka where the wedding preparation has become quite a gala event here... I'm feeling more and more tensed by the minute and it's a big responsibility, I keep getting bits and peices of advice from relatives, friends, my parents and my hubby to be as he's the last to be married from his family and I'm the first, I feel really confused and full with information which I feel are swimming around my mind at any given time, but isolating the information long enough for me to act on it is what is lacking at the moment... lol!!!
In the olden days, the wedding was a most intimate affair with a few very close relatives and friends, often the wedding was held at the brides home, and the homecoming in the grooms... There were never huge albums but maybe a few shots of the bride and groom and the bridal party... Now weddings have been commercialised beyond reasoning, and it has become a money making industry... The prices even for the sari blouse, is triple the amount you pay for a normal sari blouse when it's the bridal sari blouse... lol... Sometimes I wish I was a bridal designer instead of a graduate in Business Administration...
My mother always tells me how simply and stress freely they married, and casts up to me each time we talk about the wedding, how the wedding day is not a fashion show, and it's not about keeping up 'appearances' but sometimes when you get caught up with the wedding buzz it's hard not to "keep up with the Joneses" lol... Most of my school pals are on the brink of marriage, and all of us are one after the other being labeled 'married'... It seems so grown-upish and old to be married, and I can never feel thus, as at heart I shall always be sweet sixteen... But I do long to be married and spend time with my would be hubby as we never have the opportunity of it before marriage... In Sri Lanka couples have a strict code of morality to follow, 99.9% have never lived together nor have engaged in pre-marital sex, it's regarded to be a disgrace to have an unmarried girl bear child without consummating a marriage, and virginity is of the utmost importance to a girls character and well being... I'm not saying there are no couples who live very wild lives, and do not conform to traditional Sri Lankan moral code, but a majority are still 'old school' as I like to call it, and although these values are being washed away by the up comming generations I'm still real glad that the value of these old traditions are still kept alive among most people in this country...
Ooooo-K... Well I got side tracked a bit, sorry... But I do hope to focus on many things other than my wedding planning on this blog... So stay tuned for my next installment... Till then... Smile and be happy... Peace...
DesPerAte BriDe
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